In day to day life mistakes can be anything right from dialling a wrong number by mistake, nudging someone by mistake, unintentionally mishandling a valuable article of someone else and so on. When you hurt someone and realise that someone must bear the brunt because of your deeds, you say sorry to them to lessen their pain. What is the big deal in apologising? Say sorry and move on. Why overthink? But many people have complicated thoughts and feelings about apologising. For some it is a forceful task while some say out of real empathy. As children we were forced to say sorry but now as responsible adults we should understand and imbibe certain facts revolving around apologies.
When you apologise there are 3 benefits:

• To your mind- Believe it or not, you will feel lighter after apologising and ending a disagreement rather than prolonging and holding onto some painful discussions. After all peace of your mind is of utmost importance.
• To your relation/bond – A person will feel happier to receive apologies from you. He/she may forgive you and consider you as a matured and understanding person. This will make your bonds stronger.
• To the completion of task on hand – The worlds an exceedingly small place as they say, you never know when you happen to meet again. For instance, if you are already working together on something as colleagues/partners then not apologising can have negative impact on completion of task on time and deliver the results.

Tone your sorry – Do not undermine your tone while saying sorry to anyone. It is extremely important to sound genuine when you are apologising. If it is a face to face conversation make sure you maintain eye contact while speaking and if the person forgives, accept it with a smile. If it is a written message, do not write a defensive message. Own the mistake. Apologise with appropriate precise explanation but at the same time realise that the other persons pain is greater than your explanation at that point. Blame game is a big no while seeking an apology. Ask for forgiveness and if possible, provide a plan or solution if any.
How does a person feel to receive sorry?
The wronged person will wait for your apologies. He/she will not beg for it. But deep down they want you to walk to walk up to them and speak about faults and what could be done to reduce the damage caused. There is nothing more beautiful than confessing and accepting faults. Even more beautiful thing is forgiveness which is received from the other end. A wronged person many a times readily forgives because they recognise you as an individual who could understand their pain. This understanding is what required to re-establish your bond. Apologising saves time.
Apology is defined as regretful expression of a failure or an offence. Let me emphasise on the word “regretful”. Yes. It is important not to say sorry bluntly, but with grieve. It is important to do so because in many situations you cannot reverse the impact of what you have done. But at least your kind words will make the sufferer feel at least someone acknowledged his pain, particularly the person who caused it. This makes him/her feel better. When you say sorry with empathy it displays your remorse and involvement. It also means you are not a coward to let the person suffer alone.
Apologise before it is too late – Do not wait to say sorry when you have wronged someone, and you understand that the other person is hurt. Do not wait for anyone’s approval or advice. If you feel sorry, say you are sorry. It will not cost you anything.
It does not make you small – Sorry is word that can make bonds stronger, clarify doubts, restart healthy discussions. If you do not say sorry there is grudge on both the ends. This barrier later becomes very awkward and detesting. The burden of carrying a pending apology is much heavier than feeling of being small by a simple apology.
Do not repeat – When you say sorry to someone, mean it. Apologising to someone is a way of ensuring them that you will never let the mistake happen again. Keep in mind what wrong you did and its consequences and avoid those actions which are unwelcoming in any way to anyone.

Sad facts about people who do not easily apologise despite their fault.
Saying sorry requires some amount of generosity. Egoistic people find it difficult as they must accept their faults. Accepting own mistakes makes them feel small because they have a wrong perception that failures are not meant for them and they are too perfect to make any mistakes. Such people do not have respect in the society, and nobody prefers to socialise with them. Their pathetic self-centred and “nobody is like me” nature makes them regret later in life.
All said and done, such people do exist in the society who commit mistakes and yet have no guts to agree and accept. Remember do not wait or expect for their apologies and give them undue importance.
On the other hand, we as good individuals focus on our actions and ensure that we unlike them will be courageous. We must ensure to say sorry with remorse yet with courage and try to tell the hurt person we would learn from our faults and will not repeat it.
Remember, uttering the word sorry will make you feel small for a moment for agreeing on your faults, but you will be forever remembered by someone as a truthful, honest, and brave human being.

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